John Crnokrak & Associates

How to be

FIRST
DARING
DIFFERENT

ARE YOU SEEKING UNDERSTANDING OR STILL BEING OPINIONATED/JUDGMENTAL?

The old Chinese proverb says: “Life is an echo-what we send out comes back.” Shortly (9 days) it will be 53 years of marriage for me, and being part of the work world for 55 years, I’m convinced we need to learn how to “NOT” react automatically or be judgmental in our day-to-day interactions with our family or work environment peers.

I believe the key to happiness in our personal life and career endeavors is to “seek understanding” in our conversations and interactions with others. In fact, I suggest considering:

* To determine what you can do to make the relationship work; then do it!

* We need to demonstrate respect and kindness to those we work with and communicate, whether we think they deserve it or not.

* Do not expect anything in return immediately.

* Do not allow anything another person says or does (no matter how annoying) to affect you. Just DO NOT take the bait!

* Be consistent and persistent with your kindness and feelings. Often we have a tendency to give up too soon, especially when others do not respond as we had hoped they would. Just continually remind yourself NOT to expect much in return.

* Be able to differentiate yourself as a person who cares truly about striving for understanding in any relationship.

* Listen your way into conversations with a genuine commitment and you will never have to “talk” your way out!

* Be willing to take a stand when necessary for your own or your team members success and survival.

* Strive to have the ability to handle challenges/issues with being defeated.

* Also, never forget; “It is not who we know, It’s how we truly know them.”

In closing, never forget the relationships we create are so very critical to our success. Thus, it is important for each of us to “take full responsibility” for a relationship. To do this effectively, it requires us to treat people with the “dignity and respect” even if others around you don’t feel they deserve it.

At my stage in life I’m convinced 80-85% of personal satisfaction comes from “meaningful”¬†relationships. So just strive to be proactive, creating action…plus…relationships…than¬†deliver results!

I wish my readers continued success…John

 

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